Asslam-o-alaikum Brother, i am shocked to see your questions. I don't want to say how. Yeah, now most people will understand that these unanswered prayers are just another psychologically Attitude problems rather than the divine faith problems. Really ALLAH Do not need this ALL ( but to see who really trust on him, and who do not ), Whenever you feel pain, remember me, this will reduce, Then Beloved Prophet Says 3. [Quran, 30:21] My prayer was invalid, but time ran out before I could redo it. I wouldn't have minded the problem if it didn't prevent me from living my life. Quran surah fussilat 41:15 Allah swt gives us tests that we do not always pass to test our reaction and to decide if He is enough for us. May Allah bless you with peace and give you 100% recovery from all your illnesses. May Allah (SWT) repair your broken heart and grant you the highest levels of Sabr, Taqwaa, and Emaan that will lead you to a life in the upper echelons of Jannat-ul-Firdaus. Ittaqillah ya Akhi. The Prophet said: there isnt a single Muslim who makes a dua, as long as it is not for something that is haram or that breaks the ties of kinship, except that Allah would give him or her 1 of 3 things: (what are these 3 things?). A few days later Ive been starting to pray and being religious for the first time and then Im getting these bad thoughts that are really bad and I feel like Im going to be punished. Every prick of a thorn will clean your sins and be expiation. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Copyright 2022 MuslimMatters: Because Muslims Matter, : : : . also when someone of our beloved is in pain, we cannot do anything. You mention cancer, what if you already have cancer and severe side effects? It is rooted in a sense of sheer helplessness where you feel like nothing is in your control. He cares about all of us and wants us to be happy in Jenna inshalla after life. Will it able to make us to stop complaining?. So you might say, Allah didnt answer my call and there was no benefit in my duaa. Sometimes it feels like it's not an illness, which I wrote above, but I see now that it is. It's hard to explain. The happiness comes in a count but the sadness it comes in a bundle of count.I am afraid of being happy because it doesnt last forever or it will give sadness at last. Hello my fellow Muslim sisters and brothers! It's an extremely difficult one, but I'll deal with it. Had perhaps you didnt make duaa you wouldve gotten cancer. Consisted exclusive just for You and Allah, nothing else, again, like it or not. Low self-esteem is characterized by a lack of confidence and feeling badly about oneself. Site design / logo 2023 Stack Exchange Inc; user contributions licensed under CC BY-SA. You may ask me question for my wish, why this wish has taken place in my heart. Inequality: Punishing behavior in a relationship often indicates an imbalance as one partner holds power over the other. Hello, Trust Allah swt completely. Dont hate yourself , I hope this finds you well. How to control bad thoughts about sex, swearing, etc.? My friends and relatives did dud for me while preforming their hajj. Ive waited, ive settled my moods just upon the sole believe that hes listening and HE WILL ANSWER and I feel hope at that time as well,i start over and over, yet it has been getting worse since the past three years. I found this article with googling Why Allah doesnt speak to us, got this 2y.o article and Im astounded for Anonymous said. This was why I said I feel alone, because I don't have any friends I could trust with this information, so I turn to my family, but when they don't believe you, where do you turn? their father tried to zibah them, by putting all trust on ALLAH and by determining his mind that i am a creature of ALLAH he is my LORD if he want me to do this, then no matter what i will do this. It has come to the point that now something which my brother does (now 21) that seriously hurts and I try to discuss it with my parents, they shun me off and rebuke me by saying,you are nothing. ###Loveing Allah is just cure of every wound As if that is the proof or something.. so what then? His message to us ofcourse.. And where is his message to us? Do you study? How he cried for Hamzah, how his tears covered his face upon seeing his own children dying, one after another. Here is the beauty of our religion. I feel like I am actually doing something right out of all the screw ups of the week. Allah loves you and has made you. It's helped a bit. This, like I said, has been the worst thing I have ever dealt with in my life, so I doubt anything bad that comes after this could be worse. https://www.apa.org/pi/oema/resources/ethnicity-health/asian-american/bullying-and-victimization, https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-politics-46425044. Because I have EXTREME anxiety to top it off, I feel as if I'm going crazy. he cannot even eat if we say BISMILLAH before eating, he cannot drink, and a person who is righteous is way to strong in front of satan, Satan can not even give him advise. I've gotten this far, haven't I? That is to have my first baby as baby boy. Some one says to Allah:O Allah I hate my life.. I'm just going to deal with it. I prayed YEARS to beat my addiction, nothing happened yet. I pray to Allah (swt) every day, and spend hours thanking Him for what He has given me, in tears. He replied saying, What the F@#$% [curse word] do you want?, I was so shocked to hear that and asked him, What happened?, I told him, I didnt see you in the masjid for some time and I wanted to check on you., He said, As you can see, I am alive and healthy. I've never, in my entire life, seen ANYTHING like this before, much less people who have had something like this before. Your email address will not be published. The cookies is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Necessary". This would make me so happy. We look at hardship in a very negative way. if not then if that is also not benefiting me (in terms of prayers not being accepted) then why should i pray to him ? I don't understand why is it that when I stand up for myself and confront the person for their rude behaviour, I get treated like dirt and I become the bad, selfish, arrogant person. What I learned from that period is that I need to find ways to help myself. considered a person may be ur waiting for have bad (haram)habits and as u know Allah promise that :I will give naik women to naik man and sins full mans to sins full women )and hes may be overcoming that habits thats why its taking long to meet u or some other reasons Allah better know,so start loving Allah all over again it may not hurry up every thing but will give u the strength to face with even more power. You need psychological treatment ASAP. My parents and family are not disgusted by me, but other people for sure are. If I lost an arm I would bear it. Clear?, good now lets keep that good deeds rolling on the streets. Isnt it a strength? IslamicBoard is one of the leading Islamic discussion forum for anyone who wants to learn more about Islam or simply interact with Muslims from all over the world. Insan( human ) is not a weak being.. a normal human is a weak being but one who trusted ALLAH, ALLAH grant him power that no one have. If I had an incurable disease, I would bear it. We should always keep our. I've been to doctors, done every imaginable thing, but here I am. Have you ever thought that this may be the act of shaytaan trying to lure you away from Allah? ), he still made it to the masjid. or cant ALLAH put Khair (betterment) for us in what we are requesting ? I feel like Allah swt is punishing me Honestly, this is going to sound so corny but I have no one to discuss this with but here goes. My parents criticized me. Revise them after a short gap of say a week. The question is: what you can do about your situation? She didn't understand. At this point, it feels like Allah is punishing me. Not only that, he lost his beloved wife and the person who raised him up in the same year. Make dua sincerely and wholeheartedly. You live in Ireland. Prophets, those nearest to God, always had very difficult lives. Everyone have his own story, i have been in pain for 22 years i can write story but NO. The most hurtful was when he had to see his uncle Hamzahs body being horribly humiliated after a battle. If Allah Is Punishing You For Something, It Doesn't Mean That He Hates You. But most of the time, Allah desserts me. If you love me, This is your right that i love you, And ALLAH Says Allah reply:who ask u to love life love me then Ill make ur life beautiful I'm also one of Allah's creations who is waiting to hear back from Him. Like you said, those other things would be more 'desirable' tests for me, which I would have no problem taking. I worry daily i'm not a good enough believer and muslim. Ali 'Imran(146), And Allah loves the doers of good. Most importantly, I want to provide for my parents who have worked very hard all their lives and also my little sister so that she has more educational and career opportunities than I ever had. idk what to do. If He willed he could destroy any of us that arrogantly defies him but no, out of His Mercy he guides us so that we may return.. Its our own sins that suffocate us whereas the remeberance of Allah is where we find ease truly.. And if u want to give ur imaan(belief) that boost it needs then dont ever lose hope in Allah and his unbound Mercy dont stop asking Him for patience and other good qualities to be Bestowed upon u and most importantly read the Quran and ask Allah to embed its understanding into ur heart inshaAllah once u see the truth it will most definitely set u free.. :) asalaamu Alaikum also do dua for me brothers and sisters :) thank you, if allah gives our duas result in khayaamat then praying is waste becouse we pray to releaf our hard ship in this world not for khayaamat The best answers are voted up and rise to the top, Not the answer you're looking for? Again I have teachers who really could care less about me which breaks my heart. Also, my family does not want me to see anyone about my OCD because first off, even though they think I don't have it, they still say that I'll get sent to a psych ward or hospital when there's nothing wrong with me, etc. Im scared to practice my new religion in my parents presence. Is "I didn't think it was serious" usually a good defence against "duty to rescue"? Disclaimer:The conceptualization and recommendations stated in this response are very general and purely based on the limited information provided in the question. the Allied commanders were appalled to learn that 300 glider troops had drowned at sea. People fake their feelings , appreciation , for those who seem pretty good,,, who are not ill . Strong in faith. Even I got a birth defects with 1 extra finger and leave my parents frustrated. Learn more about Stack Overflow the company, and our products. It was a really bad time for me but Allah was there and everything turned out well in the end. (40:60). You need to find some one who can help you understand how your mind is causing you all this illness. One time I was so upset I ran out in the rain and spent hours walking in the cold telling myself not to go back home. It's kind of like people who have have fecal incontinence. By clicking Accept all cookies, you agree Stack Exchange can store cookies on your device and disclose information in accordance with our Cookie Policy. It started out with the physical problem, which in turn created the mental problems. Four years ago a guy proposed me, but I refused him as I did not want a haram relationship. It's an illness my family can't cure and one doctors can't cure. Your suffering and your pain in this world will wipe out any suffering and pain in the Hereafter for your sins. I just want a spouse and a family. I simply cannot take it anymore, I'm broken. My complain is me speaking my truth, and asking for the help I need. And it was the 2nd one that really is the last straw. :'(. Praise be to Allah. If our brain able to think like this either were a real slackers or just an empty dreamers. Delay is not denial. Try to cover most of the materials in the morning if possible. We are not tested with tests that we are bound to pass, we are tested with tests that we have a great potential to fail. Just pray to Allah, pray long and hard. Will Allah forgive me for swearing at my dad? Caring for others? A one to one counseling will help you a lot with boosting your self esteem. ', referring to the nuclear power plant in Ignalina, mean? He is owner of the treasures of the universe, then why it becomes short when we require some thing from ALLAH ? I made my intentions very clear saying I only want marriage and not to be in a haram relationship and he stated the same and said we should get to know each other. I deal with insults, taunts, and worse because of this illness. May Allah bless you with joy and peace. Pleass help me i don't want my faith to weaken. Everything has caved in. But I don't get why do I get treated so badly when I didn't do anything I don't get why bad things keep on happening to me. Even if it does, I'm persevering through this, so I'll persevere through that. Allah would delay the response till the hereafter. Similarly,Allah sometimes give us chance to prove our loyalty with him, by holding things for a while. A one to one counseling will help you process these traumas and feel relieved and happy. That's all. When this whole thing was starting out, I did see a counselor. Beauty and ugliness are like sickness and health, wealth and poverty, and success and failure; Allah . Allah LOVES us. I thought he was unfair as life has always dealt me a bad hand. Because for most people it isnt easy to share the story of their miserable life in details. I pray Allah helps you with your daily struggles. We use cookies on our website to give you the most relevant experience by remembering your preferences and repeat visits. My Istikhara result was ambiguousany thoughts? but not all of us really fully accepted and marked these answers are nonsense. Sometimes I feel so bad because my classmates say how easy and trivial things are and I do not get what they are saying. satan didnt obeyed was exiled from jannah, then how come or how did he betrayed ADAM to force to eat what was prohibited ? I took Advanced Level in January with some AS retakes and got mediocre results again. Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features. ? I am pretty miffed and feel there is nothing like divine support to the needy. Asalamualeikum sister SAMIRA Be aware of the world around you and look out for situations where you can change something to better. rev2023.5.1.43405. Now move on.. I understand that you have heard a lot about patience and this is not what I am going to talk to you about. Are you not aware? First things first, Allah is a God, so really its up to him how is the world he want it to be, even if he wants you to be the part of LGBTs. Then when my wife was second time pregnant, then i wished for my wish again and had huge hope this time, but all insane. I really like it. I am always in the first row and I make it to the masjid regardless how the weather is like. I have prayed to Allah but I feel so alone. It's hard to explain. He writes: When I am in pain, I complain. World is fulll of disgustful people, why ? Well, all of a sudden the guy just stopped talking to me after a while which I guess he lost interest. Especially when people come to complain to me about their problems, it dwindles in comparison to what I have to deal with. Peoples hearts are becoming hard and what melts a hardened heart? But Ill believe you for now. This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. the other comments are giving their best comfort to not to. I cant pray properly or do dhikr properly. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. To be honest it doesn't even bother me that much anymore. I can't imagine what it's like to be a depressed atheist. If you can only fail, how come you have written us such an honest and touching email? My wishes havent usually been pretty self-centred. One minute in Jannah will make you forget that you ever suffered in this world. 00:15:12--> 00:15:53. Everyone has a limit, and this is mine, I cannot simply persevere against this thing anymore by myself. So thanks to Allah, I am here, alive speaking to you. I think it'll even make me have stronger iman. But still no response. May Allah swt ease each of your difficulties and help you to find wisdom and patience, Ameen. I've been to several doctors and they haven't helped much. I should humble myself. Do not worry, if you be quiet, then everything will be ok. I just dont want to end up paranoid Or worse, unavailable for my future kids or husband just because I am suffering so much right now. Do them again and again and read the solutions carefully! In addition to that, you feel your sisters are better, smarter, and more beautiful than you. Don't let Shaiton get between you and Allah. I ask Him why I feel like this. But you just dont know. Does Allah hate me? As you didn't reveal what these thoughts are we can't directly address them. When you don't worship Allah, you cut yourself off from your own source. Ive been experiencing really bad thoughts since like I went to my home country Bangladesh 5 months ago. It didn't start out that way. Site design / logo 2023 Stack Exchange Inc; user contributions licensed under CC BY-SA. These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc. The greater one's love for Allah The Almighty, the more he has hope and fear. Does the order of validations and MAC with clear text matter? Thanks to that. Recently, alot of bad things happened to me, one thing after the other and it keeps on piling up. Verily! Prophet Muhammad was an orphan. What do we do about evil thoughts striking our heart? Am I just destined to be this way and go to Hell? I found you a beautiful and inspiring article from a brother. Yes, I see now that Allah cares about us. And in the last my friend i pray for you, Ill Request my ALLAH to make happy and to make your heart shine and happy again, I know its difficult for you to be in this place, but my friend i do have difficulties that might shocked you more.. this does not mean i will not obey ALLAH, i know how you feel, i remember I was too hopeless and says to ALLAH that why are you doing this to me. ', referring to the nuclear power plant in Ignalina, mean? Its just an example that how unlucky i am. I truly doubt that your parents and family and friends are disgusted by you and that your reputation has been ruined because you have a disease. have you not listen to Fir-oon Wife? And He has placed between you compassion and mercy. 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Passing negative parameters to a wolframscript, xcolor: How to get the complementary color. Did the drapes in old theatres actually say "ASBESTOS" on them? First off, I'm not going to commit suicide. I send you my warmest thoughts. I have no friends here and my classmates think I am unworthy given where I am from. Generally Id just read and run with this but i feel something must be written from me here even theres no one will be reading it and I may never came back here again. That sounds a lot better doesnt it? 1,074 likes, 29 comments - Simon | Muslim Fitness & Mindset Coach (@simonsayssquat) on Instagram: "I need to be honest with you guys When I'm really stressed I . Think about it. I have no help from family or doctors. Now answering your question, i know you have some hardship my dear friend Satan is enemy of human because he has ego, he do not want to Sajda human, this is why he disobey ALLAH, because he was jealous of human he feel ego.

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